Love Notes from my Husband

Every time I leave for a trip, Lavoy does something so sweet and meaningful. He write me love notes on the back of his business cards or a small note pad and tucks them in my bag in a variety of places. This simple act lets me know that I am loved. I have found them in my make-up, inside a pocket of pants, inside a shirt sleeve so when I put the shirt on I found the note, in my socks and shoes and even inside my vitamins. There was no cost involved. It took Lavoy a few minutes to write the notes and figure out where he was going to hide them but I would imagine that didn't take very long. The affect his notes had on me will last much longer than it took him to write and hide them.
What have you done for your true love, lately? Sometimes, it is the little things that wind up being so precious to your true love. Be creative and think about how your true love really knows he is loved.
Gary Chapman has written a great book, The Five Love Languages that identifies how different people perceive love differently-
1. words of affirmation
2. physical touch
3. quality time
4. acts of service
5. receiving gifts
It is amazing once we understand that person's love language than we better understand what is important to them which impacts how they behave.
1. Words of affirmation don't cost a penny. Find some words and use them-I love you, You are very important to me, I appreciate it when you take out the trash or unload the dishwasher, Thank you for rolling the trash can out to the curb or bringing it back... You might be surprised how effective those words of affirmation can be.
2. Physical touch is another love language that has no cost. Holding your spouses hand, squeezing his shoulder as you walk past him in the living room, hugging every time you get home and greet each other or sitting close while watching television are just a few examples of physical touch.
3. Quality time is another one that has no cost attached to it. How many times have you heard your spouse ask, "When will you be home? Why don't you stay here instead of play golf? When will you be off of the computer?" These are signals that your spouse wants to spend quality time with you. Spending quality time could be simply watching television together, talking a walk, sitting in your room and catching up from the day, cooking dinner together, or playing "Scrabble", "Chess", "Backgammon" or any other board game.
4. Acts of service is yet another love language that has no cost attached to it. This is probably the hardest one for people to exhibit to their spouse because we live in a society of taking and expecting rather than giving. Acts of service could be something as small as unloading the dishwasher when you know your wife is tired, ironing your husband's clothes for work, putting the children to bed together, calling in your spouses prescriptions for refill, filling the cars up with gas at the start of the week... The list can go on. Don't ask what you can do, just do it!
5. Receiving gifts is the one love language that could have an expense involved. If you are sentimental and creative, you may not need to buy anything. My husband brought me a rock he found at work that was in the shape of a heart and my children bring me leaves, flowers and special mementos that they think I will appreciate. There was no cost involved. Every girl likes a bouquet of roses or a velvet covered box with some bling in it but every gift doesn't always have to be a grand gesture.
Again I ask, what have you done for your true love, lately? Make sure you identify his love language and speak to him.